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America - He's your President for Goodness Sake!

2010-12-30T16:49:00.000-05:00

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> By William Thomas
> Posted: Friday, October 1st, 2010
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> There was a time not so long ago when Americans, regardless of their
political stripes, rallied round their president. Once elected, the man
who won the White House was no longer viewed as a Republican or
Democrat, but the President of the United States. The oath of office was
taken, the wagons were circled around the country's borders and it was
America versus the rest of the world with the president of all the
people at the helm.
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> Suddenly President Barack Obama, with the potential to become an
exceptional president has become the glaring exception to that
unwritten, patriotic rule.
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> Four days before President Obama's inauguration, before he officially
took charge of the American government, Rush Limbaugh boasted publicly
that he hoped the president would fail. Of course, when the president
fails the country flounders. Wishing harm upon your country in order to
further your own narrow political views is selfish, sinister and a tad
treasonous as well.
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> Subsequently, during his State of the Union address, which is pretty
much a pep rally for America, an unknown congressional representative
from South Carolina, later identified as Joe Wilson, stopped the show
when he called the President of the United States a liar. The president
showed great restraint in ignoring this unprecedented insult and carried
on with his speech. Speaker Nancy Pelosi was so stunned by the slur, she
forgot to jump to her feet while clapping wildly, 30 or 40 times after
that.
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> Last spring, President Obama took his wife Michelle to see a play in
New York City and republicans attacked him over the cost of security for
the excursion. The president can't take his wife out to dinner and a
show without being scrutinized by the political opposition? As history
has proven, a president in a theatre without adequate security is a
tragically bad idea.
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> Remember: "Apart from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you enjoy the
play?"
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> At some point, the treatment of President Obama went from offensive
to ugly and then to downright dangerous.
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> The health-care debate, which looked more like extreme fighting in a
mud pit than a national dialogue, revealed a very vulgar side of
America. President Obama's face appeared on protest signs white-faced
and blood-mouthed in a satanic clown image. In other tasteless
portrayals, people who disagreed with his position distorted his face to
look like Hitler complete with mustache and swastika.
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> Odd, that burning the flag makes Americans crazy, but depicting the
president as a clown and a maniacal fascist is accepted as part of the
new rude America.
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> Maligning the image of the leader of the free world is one thing,
putting the president's life in peril is quite another. More than once,
men with guns were videotaped at the health-care rallies where the
president spoke. Again, history shows that letting men with guns get
within range of a president has not served America well in the past.
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> And still the "birthers" are out there claiming Barack Obama was not
born in the United States, although public documentation proves
otherwise. Hawaii is definitely part of the United States, but the
Panama Canal Zone where his electoral opponent Senator John McCain was
born? Nobody's sure.
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> Last month, a 44-year-old woman in Buffalo was quite taken by
President Obama when she met him in a chicken wing restaurant called
Duff's. Did she say something about a pleasure and an honour to meet the
man or utter encouraging words for the difficult job he is doing? No.
Quote: "You're a hottie with a smokin' little body."
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> Lady, that was the President of the United States you were
addressing, not one of the Jonas Brothers! He's your president for
goodness sakes, not the guy driving the Zamboni at "Monster Trucks On
Ice." Maybe next it'll be, "Take Your President To A Topless Bar Day."
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> In President Barack Obama, Americans have a charismatic leader with a
good and honest heart. Unlike his predecessor, he's a very intelligent
leader. And unlike that president's predecessor, he's a highly moral
man.
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> In President Obama, Americans have the real deal, the whole package
and a leader that citizens of almost every country around the world look
to with great envy. Given the opportunity, Canadians would trade our
leader, hell, most of our leaders for Obama in a heartbeat.
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> What America has in Obama is a head of state with vitality and
insight and youth. Think about it, Barack Obama is a young Nelson
Mandela. Mandela was the face of change and charity for all of Africa
but he was too old to make it happen. The great things Obama might do
for America and the world could go on for decades after he's out of
office.
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> America, you know not what you have.
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> The man is being challenged unfairly, characterized with vulgarity
and treated with the kind of deep disrespect to which no previous
president was subjected. It's like the day after electing the first
black man to be president, thereby electrifying the world with hope and
joy, Americans sobered up and decided the bad old days were better.
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> President Obama may fail but it will not be a Richard Nixon default
fraught with larceny and lies. President Obama, given a fair chance,
will surely succeed but his triumph will never come with a Bill Clinton
caveat - "if only he'd got control of that zipper."
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> Please. Give the man a fair, fighting chance. This incivility toward
the leader who won over Americans and gave hope to billions of people
around the world that their lives could be enhanced by his example, just
naturally has to stop.
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> Believe me, when Americans drive by the White House and see a sign on
the lawn that reads: "No shirt. No shoes. No service," they'll realize
this new national rudeness has gone way, way too far.
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> OCTOBER 2010 SENIOR LIVING MAGAZINE VANCOUVER & LOWER MAINLAND
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2010-04-20T13:32:00.001-04:00

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2010-04-20T10:34:00.003-04:00

Words to Live By

2010-03-18T14:17:00.001-04:00

Some people are not going to like you no matter what
you do or what you say. Get over it and get on with
life.

Some of your efforts are not going to bring the results you
were after. Accept it and find another approach.
Occasionally you'll be distracted and knocked off course for
a while.

On a regular basis, life will have its disappointments.
Those disappointments and distractions do not have to stop
you. In fact, you can choose to let them inspire you and to
push you forward.

No matter what has just happened, you are free in this moment
to act with positive purpose. Whether the past has
worked in your favor or not, the future is yours to create as
you wish.

Life is too important to waste it feeling sorry for yourself or
beating yourself up. Get up and get on with life, and make it
match your highest expectations.

- Ralph Marston

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2010-01-22T09:41:00.004-05:00

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Top 10 Foods for Healthy Hair

2010-01-21T13:26:00.001-05:00

When it comes to healthy hair, it’s not just what you put on your tresses that count -- it’s what you put in your body, too.
By Hilary Parker

"Lather, rinse, repeat" may be standard advice, but shampoo and conditioner alone won't give you the healthy hair you crave. For the most luxurious locks possible, you'll need to step out of the shower, and into the kitchen.

"Your hair grows about 1/4 to 1/2 inch every month, and the foundation of all of our new hair, skin, and nail growth is the nutrients we eat," says Dawn Jackson Blatner, RD, a Chicago-based dietitian. "If you eat a healthy diet, you will grow stronger and healthier cells throughout your entire body -- inside and out."

If you were born with fine, thin hair, you'll never have rope-thick tresses -- no matter what you eat -- but a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of growth-promoting protein and iron can make a difference, say nutrition and hair experts.

Read on for the 10 top foods that should be the foundation of your healthy hair diet.

Healthy Hair Food No. 1: Salmon
When it comes to foods that pack a beauty punch, it's hard to beat salmon. Loaded with omega-3 fatty acids, this high-quality protein source is also filled with vitamin B-12 and iron.

"Essential omega-3 fatty acids are needed to support scalp health," says Andrea Giancoli, MPH, RD, a dietitian in Los Angeles and a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association. "A deficiency can result in a dry scalp and thus hair, giving it a dull look."

Vegetarian? Include one or two tablespoons of ground flaxseed in your daily diet for some plant-based omega-3 fats.

Healthy Hair Food No. 2: Dark Green Vegetables
Spinach, like broccoli and Swiss chard, is an excellent source of vitamins A and C, which your body needs to produce sebum. The oily substance, secreted by your hair follicles, is the body's natural hair conditioner.

Dark green vegetables also provide iron and calcium.

Healthy Hair Food No. 3: Beans
Beans, beans, they're good for your ... hair?

Yes, it's true. Legumes like kidney beans and lentils should be an important part of your hair-care diet. Not only do they provide plentiful protein to promote hair growth, but ample iron, zinc, and biotin. While rare, biotin deficiencies can result in brittle hair.

Healthy Hair Food No. 4: Nuts
Do you go nuts for thick, shiny hair? You should.

Brazil nuts are one of nature's best sources of selenium, an important mineral for the health of your scalp.Walnuts contain alpha-linolenic acid, an omega-3 fatty acid that may help condition your hair. They are also a terrific source of zinc, as are cashews, pecans, and almonds. A zinc deficiency can lead to hair shedding, so make sure nuts are a regular on your healthy hair menu.

Healthy Hair Food No. 5: Poultry
Chickens and turkeys may have feathers, but the high-quality protein they provide will help give you the healthy hair you crave.

"Without adequate protein or with low-quality protein, one can experience weak brittle hair, while a profound protein deficiency can result in loss of hair color," Giancoli tells WebMD.

Poultry also provides iron with a high degree of bioavailability, meaning your body can easily reap its benefits.

Healthy Hair Food No. 6: Eggs
When it comes to healthy hair, it doesn't matter whether you like your eggs scrambled, fried, or over easy. However they're served up, eggs are one of the best protein sources you can find.

They also contain biotin and vitamin B-12, which are important beauty nutrients.

Healthy Hair Food No. 7: Whole Grains
Sink your teeth into hearty whole grains, including whole-wheat bread and fortified whole-grain breakfast cereals, for a hair-healthy dose of zinc, iron, and B vitamins.

Healthy Hair Food No. 8: Oysters
Oysters may be better known for their reputation as an aphrodisiac, but they can also lead to healthy hair -- and who doesn't love that?The key to their love and hair-boosting abilities is zinc -- a powerful antioxidant.

Healthy Hair Food No. 9: Low-Fat Dairy Products
Low-fat dairy products like skim milk and yogurt are great sources of calcium, an important mineral for hair growth. They also contain whey and casein, two high-quality protein sources.

Healthy Hair Food No. 10: Carrots
Carrots are an excellent source of vitamin A, which promotes a healthy scalp along with good vision.

Since a healthy scalp is essential for a shiny, well-conditioned head of hair, you'd be wise to include carrots in your diet as snacks or toppings on your salad.

The Big Picture: A Balanced Diet for Healthy Hair
When it comes to foods for healthy hair and beauty, variety is the best way to go.

"An overall balanced diet of lean proteins, fruits, and vegetables, whole grains, legumes, fatty fish like salmon and low-fat dairy will help keep hair healthy," Giancoli says.

What are some of the things you do to keep YOUR hair healthy and shiny?

Source:WebMD

American Red Cross Pledges Initial $1 Million to Haiti Relief

2010-01-13T19:23:00.001-05:00

American Red Cross Pledges Initial $1 Million to Haiti Relief

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2010-01-11T12:08:00.001-05:00

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43 THINGS

2010-01-03T08:30:00.000-05:00

Recently, a member of The Diva Spotcreated blog post,43 Things. It's a website that offer users the ability to post New Years resolutions, create life goals, and track progress. You can create your own goals or get ideas from the community of people that are working toward their goals. This post could not have come at a better time than now because I can easily list my 90-day challenge goals (see below) and blog about my journey toward achieving them.

My Personal 90-Day Challenge-2010

2010-01-02T08:18:00.003-05:00

Mission: Attitude of Excellence

Scripture: Philippians 3:12-14
Pressing on Toward the Goal

12Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Goal Challenge:
1. Bible In 90 days
2. No T.V.
3. 4hrs physical activity a week (out of 168hrs)
4. Read 10 New Books
5. Join Toastmasters
6. Pay-off Credit Card (7,000)
7. Build Just2Divas Brand
8. Sign-up for Continuing Education Course (creative writing, publishing, writing a book)

Join me and Post your 90-day Challenge Goal.

2010-01-01T00:05:00.001-05:00

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The 90-Day Challenge

2009-12-24T10:12:00.002-05:00

THE 90-DAY DIVA CHALLENGE!

While surfing the net, I’d come across blog post by Dan & Jennifer- 10,000 Fist to Freedom. As a result the 90-Day Diva Challenge was created.
Are you committed to making your dreams come true in the next 90 days?

We challenge you to ask yourself if you truly have what it takes to make a commitment to attaining a challenging goal over the next 90 days. Often times we say that we are committed, and we may in fact actually be taking steps in the right direction, but in all actuality our own internal belief systems are keeping most of us from actually believing that success is possible sooner – not later!

However, here is the reality of the situation:
Most people don't have what it takes to make that kind of a commitment. Most people don't have the belief and confidence in themselves to make grandiose statements about the success that is already theirs, even if the evidence is not yet there to back it up.

However, I know you have what it takes to start living the best life you were created to live today!

And we're not talking about some weak. indecisive goals like losing 10 pounds, save 200 bucks, or cleaning out your garage.

No, we’re talking about hardcore, faith stirring, going to take everything you have to make it happen kind of goals.

Things more like this:
· Losing 20-30 pounds in 90 days
· Becoming financially independent in 90 days
· Moving to a new home in 90 days
· Starting a measurably profitable business in 90 days
· Volunteering 100 hours to local charitable organization
· Turning your life around 180-degrees in 90 days

Put your Smart (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timebound) goal in the comments section below.
The comment will be date-stamped, so in 90 days you will have the opportunity to come back here and post again about your victory. Post links to this website on Facebook, Blogs, Twitter, etc. to encourage and challenge family and friends to make their dreams a reality.

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2009-12-20T10:40:00.000-05:00

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Power of A Push

2009-11-13T11:03:00.000-05:00

The Sower's Daily Devotional for November 13, 2009

Read Joshua 1:9 TLB

A man said to his guests, “I admire courage. It made me a billionaire.”
Pointing to a swimming pool, filled with alligators, he said, “I’ll give you anything, if you’ll jump in and swim to the other side.”

Suddenly he heard a splash. He saw a man swimming for his life. He made it to the other side unharmed.

“What do you want?” asked the billionaire.

“Just one thing." said the breathless man. "To know who pushed me into the pool!”

Moses died. He needed a successor. God gave Joshua a push, saying, “Banish fear and doubt! For remember, the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Joshua became obedient to the Lord. He united a people, and his memory bears no stain.

Prayer: Father, we accept Thy divine leading with courage and confidence. Strengthen and sustain us with Thy counsel and companionship: through Christ. Amen.
-Michael Guido

Its Ok To Quit!

2009-10-18T15:25:00.003-04:00

I would like to thank Diamond Diva from The Diva Spot for this great blog post. Enjoy!

Motivational Speaker - Veraunda Jackson

1. Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness! Respect their position and keep it moving!

2. Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them! And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!

3. Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you. Either they believe in you and value you...or they don't!

4. Quit complaining about things you can't and won't change!

5. Quit gossiping about other people! Minding our own business should be a full time job!

6. Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter three weeks from now! Talk solutions...and then implement them!

7. Quit eating things you know are not good for you! If you can't quit...eat smaller portions!

8. Quit buying things when we know we can't afford them! If you don't have self control, then quit going to the stores! Quit charging things, especially when you don't NEED them!

9. Quit staying in unhealthy relationships! It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself! It is not okay to stay in the marriage for the children! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!

10. Quit letting family members rope you into the drama! -Start telling them you don't want to hear it! Quit spreading the drama! Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin or aunt! Go back to #5 minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!

11. Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN'T WORK! Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are!

12. Quit the job you hate! Start pursuing your passion. Find the job that fuels your passion BEFORE you quit!

13. Quit volunteering for things that you aren't getting any personal fulfillment from anymore! Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!

14. Quit listening to the naysayers! Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all!

15. Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can't do what you want to do!

16. Quit waiting on others to give you the answers...and start finding the answers for yourself! If what you are doing isn't working for you...then quit it!

17. Quit settling and start making your dreams a reality!- Quit being afraid and START LIVING YOUR LIFE! CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT! If you want something different than what you have had in the past...you must quit doing what you have done before and DO something different! JUST QUIT IT ...... and START DOING something to create the experience you want!

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Food For Thought

2009-09-23T15:59:00.001-04:00

That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly."
-- Thomas Paine

Naturally Beautiful

2009-09-20T16:42:00.005-04:00

Hi Ok readers! Sorry I haven't blogged in a while, Life has been really busy. I just embarked on this new journey of wearing my hair in its natural state, or also known as "going natural". This term describe wearing my hair in it's God given texture without permanently altering it with chemicals such as perms or texturizers. I decided to go natural because my hair was over processed, unhealthy, and damaged. I wanted a new beginning, a fresh start! I decided enough was enough and it was time to purge my head of this mangled mess. I did the Big Chop (BC) on September 5, 2009 and I love it. To take control of my hair and cut the damage away was painful at first but very liberating once complete. The pain was derived from not wanting to let go of my hair, the unknown state of my "natural hair", and the concern about how my hair was going to be perceived. As an African American female I was taught that nappy hair was "bad hair" and straight hair was "good hair". I've learned that "good hair" is healthy hair no matter the texture. Once I built the courage to proceed with cutting I felt a sense of control and I was no longer going to continue bad hair habits and be consumed about what others think. I'd accepted that my Kinky Healthy Hair was Good Happy Hair.

This journey of going natural went beyond my hair and our textured tresses can be symbolic of deeper life issues. In life we develop bad habits that ruin us mentally, physically, and spiritually. We make bad decision that are harmful but continue because we want to be accepted, or its what we're accustomed to doing.

We have allow toxic relationships to ruin our self-esteem and stunt our growth. We don't take care of our bodies, become inactive, and develop unhealthy eating habits that lead to obesity, diabetes, and heart disease. Unhealthy spending leads to debt that tear apart families. Immorality draws us away from God and leaves an unfulfilled void in our hearts.

Well just like my damaged, unhealthy hair, its time to cut away bad habits that are harmful and unfruitful. Its time to cut off toxic relationships that prevent you from growing as a person. And stir free from immorality that separates us from God and prevent us from living our full Potential.

Natural beauty comes from the inside out. As we address the innermost depths of our being true beauty will be reflective on the outside. Life isn't always going to be easy, but we must remain diligently focus on healthy productive relationships and habits in order to grow and be successful. Whatever is hindering your growth, Start today, Cut it off, and be free!

Be Bold!

2009-09-04T13:23:00.000-04:00

Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow
.--George Bernard Shaw

Monday Motivator-Are you striving for Excellence

2009-08-24T06:44:00.003-04:00

Psychology professor Jon Johnston points out the difference between success and excellence:

"Success bases our worth on a comparison with others, excellence measures us against our own potential. Success grants its rewards to the few but is the dream of the multitudes. Excellence is available to all living beings, but is accepted only by the few."

source:Daily Devotion-The Word For You Today.

Passing the Purple Hat to You: In Honor of Women's History Month

2009-08-22T06:00:00.002-04:00

IN honor of woman's history month and in memory of Erma Bombeck who lost her fight with cancer. Pass this on to five women that you want watched over. If you don't know five women to pass this on to, one will do just fine.

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck
(written after she found out she was dying from cancer).

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute…look at it and really see it … live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!!

Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what
Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

Happiness leads to greater success

2009-08-05T09:17:00.001-04:00

Shawn Achor, a Harvard-trained positive psychologist, says the same chemicals, dopamine and serotonin, that allow humans to experience the giddiness of love, also activate the learning centers of our brains. Achor continues, "Your happy and relaxed brain has more intellectual capacity than your brain under stress.” "Being positive actually helps us learn more."

Tips for Positive Thinking

Happy people tend to perform better on the job, have higher sales, cope with difficulties better, and avoid burnout. The great news about these various studies is that negative thinking can be learned, but so can positive thinking. Since our brains are flexible, take a look at the following tips you can try right now that will train your brain and start putting you on your path to positive thinking, happiness, and success.

1. Express three “gratitudes”
Are you thankful for a steady job? Your family? Your friends? Your health? By all means, express it. Write down your gratitude and/or say it out loud. Say them aloud to your significant other.

2. Keep a journal
Writing in a journal instills positive thinking. Just carry a small notepad or journal with you wherever you go.

3. Get physical
Exercise. Studies have shown that exercise reduced the relapse rate for depression by 9% for the study participants.

4. Meditate
Calm the brain by daily meditation - think about nothing, free up your mind of the usual clutter. If you focus on your breathing just five minutes a day, this will help you, even if you are not meditating.

5. Random acts of kindness
Think how you felt when someone gave you a random act of kindness. Just think how great the person must have felt. When was the last time you did something thoughtful for another person? When you did, how did you feel?

Create a happiness habit

Remember, the key to creating happiness is to train your brain. The research shows we can do it, so now it is up to you to get started.

Sources: Jennifer Openshaw, a nationally recognized entrepreneur and financial commentator, is author of " The Millionaire Zone ." Through SuperFutures.org , she offers a youth leadership program at the United Nations. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter @jopenshaw or email at jennifer@familyfn.com; Fredrickson, B. L. (2003). The value of positive emotions. American Scientist, 91, 330-335.

Monday Motivator-Budget Your Money!

2009-07-13T11:10:00.002-04:00

Budgeting is TELLING your money where to go instead of you WORRYING where it went!
-john maxwell

The rich rule over the poor, the borrower is slave to the lender
-proverbs 22:7

TGIF-Recipe for Detox Bath

2009-07-10T11:04:00.002-04:00

Baths are wonderfully healing, and it is easy to make your own homemade, detox baths.
Hot water draws toxins out of the body to the skin’s surface, and while the water cools it pulls toxins from the skin, according to Naturopath Dr. Hazel Parcells. Epsom salts augment this detoxification by causing you to sweat. Other salts—all highly alkaline and cleansing—used in baths include sea salt, baking soda, clay, and Dead Sea salts.
Basic Salt Soak Bath Formula
Minerals and salts make the bath water feel silky and leave your skin cleansed and soft.

1 cup sea salts
2 cups baking soda
1 cup Epsom salts
1 to 2 tablespoons glycerin per bath

Combine the sea salts, baking soda, and Epsom salts in a bowl. Stir to blend. Pour 1/4 cup or so into the bath while the tub is filling. Add 1 to 2 tablespoons glycerin to keep your skin from drying out (more for dry skin, less for oily skin) and essential oils of choice.
Why it Works
According to The Epsom Salt Council, Epsom Salt is a pure mineral compound (magnesium sulfate) in crystal form that gently exfoliates skin and smoothes rough patches. Mixed with your favorite deep conditioner, Epsom Salt helps to add body to hair. Dissolved in a bath, Epsom Salt is absorbed through the skin to replenish the body's levels of magnesium. Studies indicate this may help to relieve stress in a number of ways, including:
Raising the body's level of serotonin, a mood-elevating chemical within the brain that creates a feeling of well being and relaxation.

Offsetting excess levels of adrenaline generated by pressure and stress; magnesium ions relax and reduce irritability by lowering the affects of adrenaline.

Helping to regulate the electrical functions that spark through miles of nerves.

Lowering blood pressure.

Researchers have found that magnesium also increases energy and stamina by encouraging the production of ATP (adenosine triphosphate), the energy packets made in the cells. Experts recommend soaking with Epsom Salt at least three times a week to look better, feel better, and have more energy.

Leadership Tips

2009-07-06T10:52:00.002-04:00

Seven Enduring Truths about Leadership During Crisis

In these uncertain times when the foundations of our global economic system are being challenged, we need to look beyond the pessimistic predictions, the fads, and the simplistic solutions to what's proven and what's real. It's critically important to remind ourselves of what the evidence tells about how leaders get extraordinary things done. We also need to understand the vital role credible leaders play in restoring confidence and in revitalizing organizations.

1. Challenge is the greatest opportunity for greatness! In these challenging and difficult times, we are likely to see some of the best leadership we've seen in the last two decades. The greatest leaders throughout history are remembered for how they dealt with change and adversity.

2. The most important leader role models are YOU, not "them". Thousands of young people and working professionals, in two separate surveys, were asked who the most important role models for leadership were. In both categories, most people chose family members, teachers, coaches, and community and business leaders. Very few choose politicians, entertainers, and athletes, the ones who seem to dominate our headlines. The leaders who have the most influence are the ones who are closest to us.

3. The one attribute that is the foundation of all leadership - something that has remained the same for that last 25 years and is not likely to change for the next 25 years - is credibility. That is, doing what you say you're going to do, walking the talk, keeping commitments, honesty, and trustworthiness.

4. Start learning how to look ahead, to be forward looking. Being forward-looking was selected as the one quality that most differentiated leaders from team members. It's also the most difficult aspect of leadership to learn and put into practice. So if you're an executive or aspiring leader, this needs to be the focus for your development

5. You can't change people's behaviors by telling them - you have to show them. The leadership quality that has the biggest impact on people's performance is modeling the way - setting a good example.

6. Personal values drive commitment. Helping leaders and employees get clarity on their own values - even if unclear on organizational values - have the greatest impact on commitment. We often put a lot of effort into defining organizational values, yet this has little impact on employee commitment.

7. The secret to success is to stay in love. U.S. Army Major General John H. Stanford was asked about how one becomes a leader. "When anyone asks me that question, I tell them I have the secret to success in life. The secret to success is to stay in love. Staying in love gives you the fire to really ignite other people, to see inside other people, to have greater desire to get things done than other people. A person who is not in love doesn't really feel the kind of excitement that helps him to get ahead and lead others and to achieve.”

Source: Jim Kouzes, co-author of The Leadership Challenge

Monday Motivator-Adversity!

2009-07-06T10:50:00.002-04:00

"Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents whcih in prosperious circumstances would have lain dormant."

-Homer

2009-07-04T09:23:00.001-04:00

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Money Matters-Feed The Pig!

2009-06-25T10:40:00.003-04:00

So you can’t save money? It’s easy as pie! Brown bag your lunch instead of going out. 6 dollars saved times five days a week times ten years is 21,000 bucks!

I just found a really neat website, Feed The Pig that I want to share with you. The site helps people like you and me feed our piggy banks and save money, by understanding where and why we spend it.

Over the past several decades, Americans 25–34 years old experienced significant declines in net worth while increasing their debt. For every dollar worth of assets owned, this group carries 70 cents worth of debt.

The Feed The Pig campaign aims to reverse this trend by empowering younger Americans to take charge of their personal finances by living within their means and saving for long-term financial security.

Statistics demonstrate that this group’s financial behaviors, while less established, tend toward debt accumulation, and this is happening during a period of milestone events such as getting married, having children and caring for aging parents. But there is hope: more working time before retirement means that their current financial decisions have a greater impact (positive or negative) on their long-term financial security. With this campaign, AICPA and Ad Council hope to get younger Americans to establish better spending and saving habits.
The campaign draws upon a traditional savings symbol, the piggy bank, to encourage 25-34 year olds to find the benefits of saving for every stage of life.

Feed The Pig has lots of cool features—you can set up your own personality profile and make a savings plan customized to your day-to-day reality. You can project what you will save over time if you sock away up to 5% of your salary. You can get tons of tips, reminders, or even swap ideas with other savers to make Feeding the Pig easier.

Check it out!

Source: www.adcoucil.org & www.feedthepig.org

Professional and Personal Etiquette Tips

2009-06-23T10:17:00.009-04:00

A first impression is essential for professional and personal success. Its often the only opportunity you have to sell yourself to a potential employer or business partner. Here are a few tips to ensure that your first impression is your best impressions:

Appearance- No chewing gum in formal settings, good posture, and positive body language. Always be prepared to look and sound your best.

Business introduction- is based on rank not gender. Person with “higher” position is introduced to person in subordinate position. Only use first name when given permission.

Handshakes- Always give a firm handshake and make eye contact. When meeting a person of celebrity status (politicians, entertainers) you should never offer your hand first.

Attending meetings- Be punctual, well briefed on subject matter. You may not leave until senior executive has left a meeting or event. When traveling with other professionals always remember the LIFO (last-in, first-out) rule. The senior person enters the car last so they will be the first to exit.

Interviews- Dress to impress, smile, make eye contact, be on time, and do research on would-be employer.

Invited to an event- Respond. RSVP is a French term which means, please reply.

Business cards- When exchanging cards, its polite to look at the receiving business card and make comment to show acknowledgement.

Professional Etiquette when Dining

Knowing proper table manners is extremely important for job interviews and social occasions that you attend with a supervisor, client, or business associate. Knowledge of proper dining etiquette will help you avoid embarrassment and the possibility of offending someone. Here are some general tips for professional manners when dining:

Being Seated
Men precede women to the table.
Remain standing until the host or hostess has been seated.
When being seated, enter your chair from the left and rise from the right.

Napkins
Napkins are place in your lap when seated; large napkins are folded in half with crease toward you and small napkin is completely unfolded.
If you leave the table, place napkin in chair
At the end of meal, place napkin to the left of your place setting, NEVER on your plate.

Table Setting
At fancy restaurants you may be presented with an array of silverware. As a rule-of- thumb, always use your utensils outside-in.

Wine Ritual & Beverages
Traditionally speaking, red wine is served with red meat and white wine with white meats.
If you are with a host/hostess who orders wine, it is proper for him/her to sample a small amount of wine, and either approve or disapprove of the wine. If approved, the waiter/waitress will then pour wine for the remainder of guest at the table.

Initial presentation- Take a quick glance to ensure it’s the wine that you ordered, simply look at name and vintage and nod.

Cork presentation- Waiter will hand you the cork to examine (improperly stored wines will allow the cork to dry out, resulting in an air-breach will cause the wine to turn to vinegar). Do a quick sniff and hand it back.

The sip test- At this point the waiter will place a small tasting amount o wine in wine glass and step back. Simply swirl the wine in your mouth to release its natural aroma and stick your nose into glass while inhaling deeply. Next, take a small sip, swishing wine evenly across your tongue. Then turn to waiter and nod for approval.

Grasp glasses by the stem, using thumb and first two fingers.
Coffee is consider an after dinner drink

Sit up straight
Don’t talk with food in your mouth
Don’t place elbows on table
Pass to the right.
Don’t automatically salt and pepper food. Take a small taste and then season.
Wait until all are served before eating
Eat in small bites slowly
When finish place utensils across the plate

Tips on Tipping!
Maitre d’- $5 for seating two (doubles for 5-star restaurants)
Waiter/waitress-15-20% of bill
Wine Steward-10% of wine bill
Bartender-15% of bill
Hat/Coat Check- $1 per coat
Door attendant-$1-2 for cabs
Parking Valet-$1-2 per use.

Source: University of Wisconsin-River Falls Career Services

Lemon-pepper nonsense

2009-06-16T17:07:00.000-04:00

One day, I was watching “Divorce Court” and a lady was complaining about her husband because she felt they were too different. One complaint that stood out in my mind was the way he cooked his eggs. She was upset because he liked to season his scrambled eggs with lemon-pepper. Anyone with sense knows that divorcing someone because of the way they cook makes no sense at all. Yet, so many people divorce because of irreconcilable differences.

A lot of us go into relationships with unrealistic expectations. This happens in friendships as well as marriages. People fail to realize that if you want someone to change it begins with you. Have you ever heard of leading by example? If you want to see improvements in your relationships try looking in the mirror first. You might be the main one who needs to change. You know who I’m talking about-the loud talking woman; the man who has to be in control of everything. Now, I’m not ignorant to the fact that there are special cases where the other person really does need to change. In many cases, these tend to be abusive relationships. That’s another blog for another day.

None of us are perfect, but what makes relationships last is when we try to be better people and are willing to accept that we are different. Here’s something to think about: Who are you trying to change? What could you change about yourself? If you are willing to take an honest, unadulterated look at yourself, you may be surprised at what you find.

Monday Motivator-Excellence

2009-06-15T14:14:00.001-04:00

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.

Aristotle

Rx Response Preparedness Plan

2009-06-05T11:40:00.003-04:00

In addition to having a hurricane emergency plan, it is critical that in time of crisis that family members have access to essential medication-insulin, heart medication, allergy medication, etc. Rx Response, a free public service that works with the American Red Cross, the Departments of Health and Human Services and Homeland Security and state officials, provides information to help support the continuing provision of medicines to patients during a severe public health emergency.

Click on the following link to fill out and print a wallet sized medication card that contains information about prescriptions, emergency contacts for physicians, pharmacies, hospital of choice and other pertinent information.

Get Your Medication Card

It's Hurricane Season; Be Prepared!

2009-06-04T09:16:00.007-04:00

June 1st marks the first day of hurricane season. Officials from the National Hurricane Center urges you to take action and start getting prepared.

Below is a list of ways for you to be ready for this hurricane season:

Have a family disaster plan:

- Locate the safest areas in your house or community for each hurricane hazard
- Draw out an evacuation route
- Have an out-of-state Friend as a family contact so your family members have a single point of contact
- Have a plan now for what to do with your pets if you need to evacuate
- Post emergency numbers by your phones and make sure your children know how and when to call 911
- Check your homeowners insurance to see what damages are covered
- Stock up on non-perishable emergency supplies and disaster supply kit-
Use a NOAA weather radio for weather updates (remember to replace the batteries every 6 months so it will work during an emergency)

Create a disaster supply kit:

- Water- at least one gallon daily per person for three to seven days

- Food

- at least enough for three to seven days
o Non-perishable packaged or canned food and juice or Food for infants or the elderly
o Non-electric can opener
o Fuel
- Blankets and pillows
- Clothing- Seasonal, rain gear, and sturdy shoes
- First aid kit, medicines, and prescription drugs
- Flashlight and batteries
- Radio
- Cash and credit cards- Banks and ATM’s may not be available
- Toys, books, games
- Important documents in a waterproof container or watertight resealable plastic bag (Insurance, medical records, bank account numbers, social security card, etc)
- Pet care items- proper identification, immunization records, medications, food and water, carrier, muzzle and leash

Secure your home:

- Secure gabled roofs- if you have a gabled roof, fasten eight-foot long braces to the bottom chord of the gable truss and the adjacent trusses with 16-penny nails. The braces should be perpendicular to the truss, spaced at a maximum of four feet on center. In addition, be sure to tie back the gable truss with at least one eight-foot long brace, along the ridge of the roof, to several of the interior trusses.
- To increase the wind resistance of your shingles, have a qualified person inspect several shingle tabs to see if the adhesive has engaged. If not, use a quick-setting asphalt cement to bond them together. To cement the shingle tabs to the underlying shingles, place two spots of quick-setting asphalt cement about the size of a quarter under each tab with a putty knife or caulking gun. Press the tab into the adhesive. Be sure to cement all the tabs throughout the roof, being careful not to bend them farther than necessary when applying the adhesive. Replace any damaged shingles immediately.
- Install impact resistance shutters over all large windows and glass doors

Info provided by NOAA

Our Small Steps to Financial Freedom

2009-05-29T01:12:00.002-04:00

Recently, my husband and I decided to come up with a new plan to get out of debt a little faster. When something works well for you I think you should share it with others. Here is a piece of the article we posted to our blog. Hope you all find it helpful.

...Our plan is to 1. write down all bills, 2. write down all expenses (groceries, eating out, gas, etc.), 3. pinpoint unnecessary expenses, 4. take the extra money from unnecessary expenses and have an automatic draft into another account. The goal is to minimize spending & maximize saving and investing. We've done steps 1, 2, & 3. Boy could we eat out less. If we stick to our plan maybe one day we'll be on the Dave Ramsey show yelling into the phone, "We're debt free!!!" (shalandarian.blogspot.com)

The key to achieving anything is to write it down and begin envisioning yourself reaching that goal. Seeing your goals on paper does something mentally. It helps goals seem more real and helps you keep your focus.

Challenge: Take a goal, any goal, and write it down. Outline steps for reaching that goal and come up with a realistic timeline.

2009-05-25T17:05:00.001-04:00

Monday Motivator!

2009-05-12T13:22:00.000-04:00

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities disguised as impossible situations."
~Charles Swindoll

Six Tips to Put Your Financial House in Order

2009-05-12T11:06:00.002-04:00

Six Tips to Put Your Financial House in Order
By Kim Lankford, Monster Contributing Writer

If you want to spend less time worrying about your money, then it’s time to get your financial act together. These six strategies can help improve your financial situation and simplify your life at the same time.

1. Put Your Savings on Autopilot

If you haven’t maxed out your 401k or other retirement plan at work, add an extra $50 or $100 every month. Increasing your contributions just a little can make a huge difference over time. By adding $100 per month when you’re 25, you’ll have an extra $330,000 in your 401k by the time you’re 65 if your investments return 8 percent annually, which is below the average long-term return for stocks. Since the investments are pretax, your $100 monthly investment will lower your paycheck by $75 if you’re in the 25 percent bracket. If your employer matches your contribution, you’ll get free money to help you save even more. And it’s the easiest way to save, since the money is automatically invested before you can touch it. If you’ve maxed out your 401k, invest $333 automatically every month in an IRA. Ask your IRA administrator to set up automatic payments.

2. Stop Worrying About Your Investments

Instead of poring over your investment options and wondering when -- and what -- you should buy and sell, have the experts do it for you. Most mutual fund companies, and quite a few 401k plans, now offer target funds that match your investments to your savings time frame. If you’re in your mid-30s, for example, you can invest your retirement money in a 2040 target date fund. This fund invests aggressively when you have more than a decade to go before retirement, then gradually gets more conservative as you approach retirement. These funds are diversified, so you don’t need to invest your retirement money anywhere else.

3. Pay Bills Automatically

Signing up to have your bills paid automatically from your bank account saves you monthly check-writing hassles and mail-delivery worries; it also protects you from costly missed deadlines. After one late payment, some credit-card companies boost interest rates beyond 31 percent and charge late fees of nearly $40. And some card companies raise your rate if you miss a deadline on another card, even if you have a spotless record with them.

4. Streamline Your Files

Go through your financial files and toss what you don’t need. In general, you should keep your tax returns forever, but you can get rid of supporting documents after three years (six years if you have self-employment income). You can also get rid of monthly investment statements after everything matches with your year-end summaries and ATM receipts as soon as the transactions appear on your monthly bank statement.

5. Protect Your Identity the Simple Way

Instead of signing up for expensive services that monitor your credit records for identity theft, do it yourself for free. You can now get a free copy of your credit reports from each of the three bureaus (Equifax, Experian and TransUnion) every 12 months (www.annualcreditreport.com). Stagger your requests so you get one report every four months. Review each one carefully for errors or unauthorized charges.

6. Get Out of Debt

The best thing you can do to improve your financial health is eliminate high-interest debt. Try to use any bonus, raise or tax refund to pay off credit cards in full. Even adding a few hundred dollars to your payments can make a huge difference, especially if you can get your credit card company to lower your rate. If your minimum payment is 4 percent of your debt, a $5,000 balance with an 18 percent interest rate would start with a $200 monthly payment, which would take 32 months to pay off and cost $1,314 in interest. If you pay $500 per month on a 5 percent card, you’ll cut your interest charges to $118 and pay off the balance in just 11 months.

How does this simplify your life? Once you’re out of debt, you won’t have to juggle minimum payments, and you’ll save a ton in interest, which frees up extra cash to reach the rest of your financial goals.

National Women's Health WeeK

2009-05-12T09:56:00.000-04:00

Phenomenal Woman-Happy Mother's Day!

2009-05-08T07:58:00.000-04:00

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Maya Angelou

Lunch On Oprah!

2009-05-06T09:53:00.003-04:00

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Monday Motivator

2009-05-04T14:14:00.000-04:00

“You will suddenly realize that the reason you never changed before was because you didn’t want to.”

-Robert H. Schuller

Swine Flu: Information for Concerned Parents and Caregivers

2009-04-30T09:36:00.001-04:00

What is H1N1 (swine flu)?
H1N1 (swine flu) is a type of influenza (flu) virus that causes respiratory disease that can spread between people. Most people infected with this virus in the United States have had mild disease, but some have had more severe illness, and there has been at least one death. Young children, pregnant women, and people with chronic diseases like asthma, diabetes, or heart disease may be at higher risk for complications from this infection. More information about who may be at higher risk will be available when more is known about the disease. There are steps you can take to protect your family and to know when to seek medical care.

What are the symptoms?
In most children, the symptoms of H1N1 (swine flu) are similar to the symptoms of regular flu. They include:

Fever
Cough
Sore throat
Body aches
Headache
Chills and fatigue
Occasionally, vomiting and diarrhea

Young children may not have typical symptoms, but may have difficulty breathing and low activity. Little is known about how H1N1 (swine flu) may affect children. However, we think the infection may be similar to other flu infections. Typically, flu infections cause mild disease in children, but children under 5 years old are more likely to have serious illness than older children. Although rare, severe respiratory illness (pneumonia) and deaths have been reported with flu infections in children. Flu infections tend to be more severe in children with chronic medical conditions.

How to keep from getting it:
Flu viruses spread from person to person mainly through the coughing or sneezing of a sick person. Flu virus may also be spread when a person touches something that is contaminated with the virus and then touches his or her eyes, nose, or mouth. We think H1N1 (swine flu) spreads the same way as other flu viruses. Right now, there is no vaccine to protect against H1N1 (swine flu), but there are everyday actions that can help prevent the spread of germs that cause respiratory illnesses like H1N1 (swine flu):

Teach your children to wash their hands frequently with soap and water for 20 seconds. Be sure to set a good example by doing this yourself.
Teach your children to cough and sneeze into a tissue or into the inside of their elbow. Be sure to set a good example by doing this yourself.
Teach your children to stay at least six feet away from people who are sick.
Children who are sick should stay home from school and daycare and stay away from other people until they are better.
In communities where H1N1 (swine flu) has occurred, stay away from shopping malls, movie theaters, or other places where there are large groups of people.

What to do if your child is sick:

Unless they need medical attention, keep children who are sick at home. Don’t send them to school or daycare.
Have them drink a lot of liquid (juice, water, Pedialyte ®).
Keep the sick child comfortable. Rest is important.
For fever, sore throat, and muscle aches, you can use fever-reducing medicines that your doctor recommends based on your child’s age. Do not use aspirin with children or teenagers; it can cause Reye’s syndrome, a life-threatening illness.
If someone in your home is sick, keep him or her away from those who are not sick.
Keep tissues close to the sick person and have a trash bag within reach for disposing used tissues.
If your child comes in contact with someone with H1N1 (swine flu), ask your doctor if he or she should receive antiviral medicines to prevent getting sick from H1N1 (swine flu).

If your child experiences any of the following warning signs, seek emergency medical care:
Fast breathing or trouble breathing
Bluish or gray skin color
Not drinking enough fluids
Not waking up or not interacting
Being so irritable that he or she does not want to be held
Not urinating or no tears when crying
Their symptoms improve but then return with fever and worse cough
For more information call 1-800-CDC INFO, or go to http://www.cdc.gov/swineflu

source: Centers for Disease Control (CDC)

Swine Flu Updates-Stay Informed!

2009-04-30T09:18:00.000-04:00

Monday Motivator-Enjoy Life!

2009-04-27T09:48:00.002-04:00

There are two things to aim at in life; first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second.

-Logan Pearsall Smith

Making Homes Affordable, President Obama Homeowners Rescue Plan

2009-04-17T09:58:00.007-04:00

I'm an avid listener of National Public Radio (NPR), and there's been a lot of talk about President Obama's Foreclosure Rescue Plan. As a homeowner I wanted to learn more about the plan and determine if I qualify for program with the potential of reducing my mortgage payments and saving money. Unfortunately I don't qualify, but I wanted to present the facts for OK readers who may be eligible for benefits.

What is President Obama's Homeowner Affordability Modification Plan?

Many American homeowners are struggling to pay their bills and avoid foreclosure due to rising employment, bank fall-outs, and a deepening recession. In an effort to prevent foreclosures, President Obama recently announced a $75 billion initiative called the Homeowner Affordability and Stability Plan (HASP). One of the principal tenants of the plan is called the Making Home Affordable initiative. This initiative is comprised of two parts:

· The Home Affordable Refinance program which will help homeowners who's falling home values have prevented them from refinancing because their current loan-to-value ratios are higher than the normal 80% figure and who's mortgage is owned by Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac.

· The Home Affordable Modification program which is designed to reduce monthly mortgage payments for people who are close to foreclosure by modifying their mortgages and lowering the payments on their loans. Their loan does not need to be owned by Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac.

According to CNN, six major banks have signed up for President Obama's plan. They include JPMorgan Chase, Wells Fargo, Citigroup, GMAC Mortgage, Saxon Mortgage Service, and Select Portfolio Servicing.

Overview of Home Affordability Modification Guidelines
· Loans must have originated on or before January 1, 2009.
· Mortgages must be for a single-family residence with a loan balance no greater than $729,750.
· Loans can only be modified once beginning March 4, 2009 through December 31, 2012.
· Home cannot be vacant or condemned and must be a primary residence—not investor owned.
· Interest rate can be lowered to as low as 2 per cent and the term of the mortgage can be extended to a maximum of 40 years in order to maximize the reduction in loan payment.
· Borrowers will need to provide an "affidavit of financial hardship", their most recent tax return, and two recent pay stubs.
· Service providers will be required to follow a sequence of steps that modify the loan in order to reduce the monthly loan payment to no more than 31% of gross monthly income.
· Homeowners who make their payments on time are eligible for up to $1,000 of principal reduction payments each year for up to five years

To determine eligibility for the Home Affordability Modification program, click the following link

Am I Eligible?

Beware of Foreclosure Rescue Scams-Help is Free!

Source: Treasury.gov

Where my Divas At?

2009-04-14T11:05:00.000-04:00

Greetings Divas,
I would like to personally invite all of you to The Diva Spot. The Diva Spot is an innovative new social network that was created by Just2Divas (Sapphire & Angel). We KNOW that you will enjoy yourself atThe Diva Spot. It is a fantastic way to meet new DIVAs - just like yourself, network, and be able to let your hair down with others who are just like you!
Coming soon to The Diva Spot is a Diva Slogan contest where you can win a $50.00 cash prize! Now what Diva couldn't use an extra $50.00. So, come check out The Diva Spot and become a member of our new community of friends.

Monday Motivator

2009-04-13T09:22:00.000-04:00

God ever works with those who work with will.

-Aeschylus

He has risen-Happy Easter

2009-04-12T18:12:00.002-04:00

I will keep this short, simple, and sweet. You can accomplish above and beyond your hearts desire because Jesus Christ has risen. Beginning today live everyday confident, fearless, and fulfilled!

Fit & Fabulous Friday- Get In Shape At Any Age

2009-04-03T16:35:00.004-04:00

Ernestine Shepherd is my new motivation for healthy and fit living. This 72-year-old, 5-foot-5, 125lb. retired schoolteacher decided to get in shape at age 56. She works out 5 days a week incorporating cardio and weight training into her routine and eats a diet high in protein, low fat, and balanced carbohydrates. Her favorite form of cardio is power walking, which she does two hours a day and four hours on Saturday. Mrs. Shepherd offers the follow tips for “Keeping Trim”:

Be determined, dedicated and disciplined to be fit. Do weight training and cardio at least three times a week.

Get plenty of rest and sleep.

Control weight by not eating fours hours before you go to bed .

Drink 10 to 12 glasses of water a day.

Monday Motivator-Leadership

2009-03-30T13:13:00.001-04:00

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Fit & Fabulous Friday- 5 Tips For Burning Body Fat

2009-03-27T09:19:00.000-04:00

Burn Body Fat - 5 Simple Tips to Reducing Body Fat!
Author: Jason Oh

If you want to burn body fat, then you need to improve what you eat and increase daily physical activity. Below are 5 easy ways to reducing your body fat for good.

1. Strive for five ... fruit and veggie servings. Packing your plate with greens (as well as oranges, reds and blues) not only helps protect you from a variety of diseases, but also keeps extra pounds from sneaking back on. A study has found that women who consumed the highest number of fruit and vegetable servings (at least 5 per day, not including potatoes) were 60 percent more likely to ward off weight regain than those who got fewer servings. Experts say loading up on produce, which generally has a high fiber and water content, means you have less room for other, higher calorie foods.

2. Any foods that make you lose weight? There are good foods and there are bad foods. Although there are no miracle foods, good foods like fresh, natural foods can be your best friend. You see, by eating more nutritious foods over processed foods (that are stripped of any healthy nutrient), you can easily load your body with good energy, keep your metabolism revving, and burn body fat. Natural foods are simply the best foods to eat to lose weight. Reducing caloric intake by 15% will help reduce body weight.

3. Eat and lose weight by planning to consume 6 healthy meals a day. Do it this way, your body will be satisfied all day long, and will constantly be burning body fat. Now this is really how to lose weight naturally.

4. This is one the best ways to lose body fat - lose weight by walking. If you are new to the health regime - start walking daily, and aim to get in at least a 30 minute session. And as your fitness improves, ramp it up - and lose weight running.

5. An effective exercise to burn body fat - Interval Training plus Compound strength training. The high intensity workout involved ensures that your metabolism will keep burning long after a workouts ends - in other words, you will be reducing body fat more efficiently.

The following chart and Calculator are a basic guideling for measuring and monitoring body fat percentages.

Calculate Your Body Fat Percentage

40 Tips Toward A Healthy Mind, Body, & Spirit

2009-03-23T11:39:00.002-04:00

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems Are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Innermost self is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Live life fully and be Happy!

Paying For College

2009-03-06T16:07:00.008-05:00

The following link provides over 100 resources to pay for college that includes scholarships, graduate school scholarships, internships, fellowships, books, and websites. The Student Resource Guide was provided courtesy of U.S. Congresswoman Lucille Roybal-Allard.

SCHOLARSHIPS

United States Department of Education
www.ed.gov/finaid.html
College is Possible
www.collegeispossible.org
FastWeb
www.fastweb.com
Financial Aid
www.finaid.org
Free Scholarships Search & Information Services
www.freschinfo.com
Scholarship Resource Network Express
www.srnexpress.com
Hispanic Association of Colleges and Universities
www.hacu.net/hacu/Scholarship
Minority Scholarship Resource Links
www.uwsp.edu/admission/resource%20links.htm

Volunteer!

2009-03-05T16:38:00.017-05:00

Volunteering is an opportunity to make a difference in your life and in the lives of those around you. It’s a chance to apply your skills and ideals toward helping others and meeting critical needs in your community. Organization like Habitat For Humanity, American Red Cross, AmeriCorps, and Peace Corps are driven by volunteers that offer help in times of need. Volunteering can offer leadership opportunities, personal development, professional development, and improved community relations.

During this economic downturn it may seem unconceivable to donate time and skills for free but the opportunities and benefits can be very rewarding. Volunteer benefits can include money for college, grants, loan repayment/forgiveness, job placement, cross cultural development and expanded knowledge of global markets and communities.

I learn the value of volunteering at an early age. My mother worked at the Savannah Association For Blind, Inc.—a non-profit organization that provides rehabilitation services designed to help blind and visually impaired individuals in all walks of life function independently in their homes and in the community. I would volunteer during my summer break and was responsible for setting up recreational supplies, preparing meals, and general office duties. This experience was very rewarding and instilled in me the compassion to help others that I value to date. Getting your kids involved at an early age to volunteer teaches them a valuable lesson of servitude, responsibility, builds self confidence, develop work ethics, and gain valuable job skills. Also, it provides a great opportunity to earn scholarships. Programs like Learn and Serve America offers a unique opportunity for youth to get involved by integrating community service projects with classroom learning. Learn and Serve America provides direct and indirect support to K-12 schools, community groups, and higher education institutions to facilitate service-learning projects and recognizes outstanding youth service through the Presidential Freedom Scholarship, Presidential Volunteer Service Award, and other programs.

Want to travel abroad? The Peace Corps, inpsired by John F. Kennedy in the 1960s, was created to offer individuals the opportunity to serve their country in the cause of peace by living and working in developing countries. The peacecorps offer volunteers educational benefits, financial benefits and loan deferment, medical benefits, job placement support, and advantage for federal employment. If your unable to travel, AmeriCorps members address critical needs in communities all across America. Full-time members who complete their service earn a Segal Americorps Education Award of $4,725 to pay for college, graduate school, or to pay back qualified student loans; members who serve part-time receive a partial Award. Some AmeriCorps members also receive a modest living allowance during their term of service.

These are just a few examples of volunteer opportunities available. You can also donate time to a local community group, shelter, non-profit organization, and your church.

-right Michelle Obama dishes out risotto and volunteer spirit at Washington D.C. homeless shelter Mar 05, 2009

http://www.volunteermatch.org/
http://www.volunteer.gov/
http://www.usfreedomcorps.gov/

Spiritual Appearance and Dress

2009-03-02T19:28:00.006-05:00

Our life, character and self-image are reflected by our apparel and mode of dress. "Be not conformed to this world," reminds us that our manner of dress must be modest and decent (Romans 12:2; 1 Thessalonians 5:22, 23). It is not displeasing to God for us to dress well and be well groomed. However, above all we must seek spiritual beauty, which does not come from outward adornment with jewelry, expensive clothes or cosmetics, but from good works, chaste conversation, and a meek and quiet spirit (Philippians 4:8; 1 Peter 3:3-5).

American Recovery and Reinvestment Act 2009 Summary

2009-03-02T10:54:00.005-05:00

The recently enacted “American Recovery and Reinvestment Act of 2009″ (the 2009 economic stimulus act) contains a wide-ranging tax package that includes tax relief for low and moderate-income wage earners, individuals and families with college expenses, and home and car purchasers. This summary provides an overview of applicable tax changes affecting individuals and families in the new law.

“Making Work Pay” credit. The new law provides an individual tax credit in the amount of 6.2 percent of earned income not to exceed $400 for single returns and $800 for joint returns in 2009 and 2010. The credit is phased out at adjusted gross income (AGI) in excess of $75,000 ($150,000 for married couples filing jointly). The credit can be claimed as a reduction in the amount of income tax that is withheld from a paycheck, or through a credit on a tax return. Under the credit, workers can expect to see perhaps $13 a week less withheld from their paychecks starting around June. Next year, the extra take-home pay will go down to around $9 per week.

Economic recovery payment. The new law provides for a one-time payment of $250 to retirees, disabled individuals and Social Security beneficiaries and SSI recipients receiving benefits from the Social Security Administration and Railroad Retirement beneficiaries, and to veterans receiving disability compensation and pension benefits from the U.S.Department of Veterans’ Affairs. The one-time payment is a reduction to any allowable Making Work Pay credit.

Refundable credit for certain federal and state pensioners. The new law provides a one-time refundable tax credit of $250 in 2009 to certain government retirees who are not eligible for Social Security benefits. This one-time credit is a reduction to any allowable Making Work Pay credit.

Unemployment compensation exclusion. A provision temporarily suspends federal income tax on the first $2,400 of unemployment benefits received by a recipient in 2009.

Expanded earned income tax credit. The new law provides tax relief to families with three or more children and increases marriage penalty relief. The changes apply for 2009 and 2010.
Expanded child tax credit. A measure increases the eligibility for the refundable child tax credit in 2009 and 2010 by lowering the threshold to $3,000 (from $8,500 in 2008).

Expanded and revised higher education tax credit. The new law creates a $2,500 higher education tax credit that is available for the first four years of college. The credit is based on 100% of the first $2,000 of tuition and related expenses (including books) paid during the tax year and 25% of the next $2,000 of tuition and related expenses paid during the tax year, subject to a phase-out for AGI in excess of $80,000 ($160,000 for married couples filing jointly). Forty percent of the credit is refundable. The new credit temporarily replaces the Hope credit.

Computers as an education expense. A provision permits computers and computer technology to qualify as qualified education expenses in 529 education plans for tax years beginning in 2009 and 2010.

Expanded first-time credit for first-time home buyers. Last year, Congress provided taxpayers with a refundable tax credit that was equivalent to an interest-free loan equal to 10% of the purchase of a home (up to $75,000) by first-time home buyers. The provision applied to homes purchased on or after April 9, 2008 and before July 1, 2009. Taxpayers receiving this tax credit were required to repay any amount received under this provision back to the government over 15 years in equal installments (or earlier if the home was sold). The credit phases out for taxpayers with adjusted gross income in excess of $75,000 ($150,000 in the case of a joint return). The new law enhances the credit by eliminating the repayment obligation for taxpayers that purchase homes on or after January 1, 2009. It also extends the credit through the end of November 2009, and bumps up the maximum value of the credit from $7,500 to $8,000.

Tax break for new car purchasers. The new law allows taxpayers to deduct State and local sales taxes paid on the purchase of a new automobile, including light trucks, SUVs, motorcycles, and motor homes. The tax break phases out starting with taxpayers earning $125,000 per year ($250,000 for joint returns). The deduction is allowed to both those who itemize their deductions as well as to nonitemizers. However, the deduction cannot be taken by a taxpayer who elects to deduct State and local sales taxes in lieu of State and local income taxes.

Alternative minimum tax (AMT) patch. To hold the number of taxpayers subject to the AMT at bay, the new law increases the AMT exemption amounts for 2009 to $46,700 for individuals and $70,950 for joint returns, and allows the personal credits against the AMT.

For more Info go to
www.recovery.gov
www.irs.gov

Monday Motivator-Live Your Dream!

2009-03-02T10:22:00.000-05:00

The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had means, time, influence and educational advantages; the question is what he will do with the things he has. The moment a young man ceases to dream or to bemoan his lack of opportunities and resolutely looks his conditions in the face, and resolves to change them, he lays the corner-stone of a solid and honorable success.

-Hamilton Wright Mabie

A Quick Tip on Saving Money

2009-02-25T05:31:00.004-05:00

The are many credit and financial agencies that are willing to help TEACH you how to maximize your saving, at a small fee of course. Now you can learn to save money, see your trends in spending, and review your checking account balance all in one spot, http://www.mint.com/ . I've been using Mint for almost a year now and shows me where I spend the most money, what bills increased form the month before, and the average amount I spend on my kids, gas, food, and restaurant dining. It's free to sign up so go give it a try.

The Word for Today: Posturing

2009-02-23T20:59:00.000-05:00

Do you ever really sit and think about the decisions you’ve made in life? Do you find yourself asking, “what if?” If you could turn back the hands of time, would you change anything? For many of us, there have been decisions and events that have taken place that we wish we could somehow change or take back. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. But, there is hope for the future. Now is the time where you can take a stand to posture yourself to being a better person. This means that from now on, you must be conscious of the decisions you make and be fully aware the consequences that may follow you. Not sure of where I’m going with this, let me paint you a portrait…..

You have a little boy who grew up not knowing his father and some would say at that point of his life, the odds have already been stacked against him. Well, God surely must work in mysterious ways because in spite of his father’s absence, his mother, grandmother, and grandfather step in to give him the best upbringing possible. Of course, there would be times when the rambunctious sides would come with raising a boy. But, the three most important people in his life would definitely make sure that he stayed on the right path and out of trouble. As time would go by, this boy would grow to become a man who attends one of the most prestigious universities in the country where he would be the first African-American leader of their law review. Continuing on this path, he decides that he wants to make a difference in the community where he works and ultimately meets his future wife, has two beautiful children, runs for the State Senate (losing the first time, but persevering on the second try), runs for the U.S. Senate, and finally running for President. People said that he wasn’t experienced and thought for sure that he would become an afterthought when Hillary Clinton became the presumed presidential candidate. I’ll bet they’re kicking themselves now because when he won the Iowa caucus, people began to change their minds about this little boy who grew up without a father. Every day, he worked tirelessly to spread his message of change and never once did he waver or tarry in doing good. Even when he was chosen as the presumed Democratic presidential candidate, his opposition clearly doubted him. They tried to do as much mudslinging as possible and you know what….those suckers couldn’t find a thing on him. Do you know why? Because the three most important people in his life began posturing him in the beginning to be the best man that he could possibly be. Think about it. Did you ever hear of any extramarital affairs throughout his campaign? Was there ever any mention of him not filing his taxes for any number of years? Did this man have any other children outside of his marriage? The answer is…..no! Where is this man today? Naturally, he’s our 44th President of the United States. And, I say naturally because that is what God and posturing will do for your life.

I know that you come from some of the toughest neighborhoods. You had a baby at a young age and now you feel like life is over. Other people are telling you that you can forget about college because your life is no longer your own. Your homegirls or homeboys are telling you that there are no good men, or women, out there and that you should use what you have to get what you want. And, some men have the nerve to tell you just settle on what you have because you’ll never get anything better. Do you know what I have to say to that? To hell with all of that!!!!! Yes, you’ve made some decisions that weren’t very sound in judgment at the time, but you can still posture yourself into the person you’ve always dreamed to be. All is not lost when it comes to your life. If you don’t have the support of your family or friends, that’s okay. Sometimes, the people that are closest to you won’t understand the changes that are taking place within you. Maybe, there’s a teacher, mentor, church member, or a family member that can help steer in the right direction and posture you into being an exemplary man or woman of God. The time is now to make a change, change that we dream of, and change we can most certainly believe in. Stand up tall, look yourself in the mirror, and revel in the beauty of what you’re seeing because today is the day that you get to know the person you are and let go of the person you used to be. Look into your eyes and see how they light up when you think of the possibility of actively pursuing your dreams. Who your family and friends thought you were is no more. Who you are in the future is just inches away from your grasp. Take hold because after today, you’ll never be the same again.

And thank you, Mr. Barack Obama, or shall I say, Mr. President, for showing all of us that we really can be anything that we want in this world. It’s no longer a cliché. It’s real and in the hands of God, it’s been written.

The Word for Today: Pruning

2009-02-22T19:54:00.000-05:00

It is a verb and its definition is to remove something considered unnecessary or unwanted. It’s also means to cut branches away from a plant to encourage fuller growth. You’re probably wondering exactly where I’m going with this and guess what; I’m taking you on the journey right now. So, strap on your seatbelts because it will definitely get bumpy and it might hurt a little.

While we’re almost three months into the year 2009, many of us have experienced a lot of things in the past year and like most of us, we’d prefer that all those negative things stay in the past. Unfortunately, life doesn’t seem to work that way. Whether you believe in God or not, everyone has their own predetermined path in life that includes many ups and downs, twists and turns, loves and heartbreaks, and laughter and sadness. Plus, while all of these events are taking place, you’re taking your own personal journey and discovering who you are, what you want out of life, and how you want to live. While the experience of life can be a great one, there will be bumps in the road and some of them might be bigger than others. Right now, you may have someone in your life that doesn’t support your dreams or they may criticize how you are because it doesn’t flow with the rest of the world. You’re probably in a relationship with a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife and it seems like ever since you’ve been with them, life hasn’t been the best that it could be. Or, maybe you’ve finally come to understand who you are but your friends or other people don’t like this “new” you. Well, now it’s time to become a gardener and to start some pruning.

Throughout our lives, we’ll meet people or go through situations for a reason or season. And, through those times, we’ll welcome the lifetime expectations. The first part that I mentioned is what I like to call the “pruning phase”. People or situations that come into your life for a reason are meant to teach you a lesson and once the lesson is learned, they’re no longer there. People or situations that come into your life for a season are there to instill values and wisdom within you to prepare you for your future. Lifetime expectations are the ones who’ll be there with you through everything, give you a shoulder to cry on, listen to your problems when you need someone to talk to, and make you laugh through your hard times. At first, it will be hard to recognize these people because some will try to manipulate and deceive you. But, the key to being a good gardener is knowing what to keep that will make you grow and what to prune away that will stunt your growth. This process is going to hurt because you’ll feel like you’re cutting away things that you need but know it’s not good for you and that’s okay. Life is too short to be compromising just to please someone else who doesn’t think you’re worthy. You have dreams and aspirations that drive you to wake up in the morning and make it hard to sleep because you’re so inspired and driven. But, when you don’t prune away the unwanted things, those dreams and aspirations will start to slip away day by day and you might lose parts of yourself. To the person that is reading this right now, don’t fret about the loves you lost in the past or friends who are no longer there. It’s all part of the pruning process to make you better. And you know what else, when you come to the place in your life when you feel your absolute best, you’ll be rewarded with your lifetime expectations. Anything you want out of life will require work, but the result will be a beautiful outcome and an overflow of blessings. Do yourself a favor, start pruning!!!!

Kisses and hugs,
Ms. Lakisah

Hello To The World!!!!!

2009-02-22T18:31:00.003-05:00

Good evening to the Organize Kaos family,

I want to start off my thanking Sapphirestarr for inviting me to contribute to Organize Kaos. Through my contributions, I hope to inspire many people to be their absolute best and to touch as many lives as possible. For the person that's reading this post right now, you've probably had some pretty rough days recently. It seems like every time you take a step forward, there's someone or something there to push you two steps back and it's making you seriously frustrated. You've graduated college, but you're having a hard time finding a job, let alone a job in your field of study, and it's making you feel disillusioned because you're starting to question whether this is the right path for you. Or, you gotten out of a toxic relationship that stripped you of everything you deemed as precious or of worth to you. Guess what...I know exactly what you're feeling. I've been through some of the things you're going through now and I'm learning about life and all it's trials and tribuations with. Through our journey together, I'm here to let you know that you're not alone. With every setback, I hope to show you that you can find the setup. With every heartbreak, I hope to show you the lessons you can learn from it to apply in the future. For every time someone called you ugly or made you feel less than, I want to show you the beauty that lies inside of you and that you're worthy of life, pursuing your dreams, and being your authentic self that God has given to you. In 2009, I want us to shed our past as we give birth to all the hopes, dreams, and desires that we've planted so deep within us. It's time for us to live our dreams and through my posts, I want to help you get there. See you soon.

Kisses and hugs,
Ms. Lakisah

Happy Friday! Delicious Decision

2009-02-20T20:55:00.003-05:00

Heart Healthy recipe for the heart and soul!Recapture Sunday lunches from the past by making this crispy-coated chicken and extra gravy to top low-fat mashed potatoes.

Crispy Chicken with Creamy Gravy
Serves 4; 3 ounces chicken and 1/4 cup gravy per serving

Ingredients

4 boneless, skinless chicken breast halves (about 4 ounces each), all visible fat removed

3 tablespoons all-purpose flour

Egg substitute equivalent to 1 egg, or 1 large egg

1/4 cup unsalted cracker crumbs (about 7 crackers)

1 teaspoon salt-free all-purpose seasoning

Vegetable oil spray

1 tablespoon canola or corn oil

1/2 cup bottled fat-free chicken gravy

1/2 cup fat-free milk

Cooking Instructions
Rinse chicken and pat dry with paper towels. Put chicken smooth side up between two sheets of plastic wrap. Using a tortilla press or smooth side of a meat mallet, lightly flatten chicken, being careful not to tear the meat.
Put 2 tablespoons flour in a large airtight plastic bag. Add chicken and shake to coat.
Pour egg substitute into bag and shake to coat.
Combine cracker crumbs and all-purpose seasoning in a shallow bowl. Roll chicken in mixture. Lightly spray both sides with vegetable oil spray.
Heat a large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Add oil and swirl to coat bottom of skillet. Cook chicken, meaty side down, for 4 to 5 minutes, or until browned on bottom.Turn chicken over and cook for 4 to 5 minutes, or until no longer pink in center. Transfer chicken to a platter and cover with aluminum foil to keep warm.
Put chicken gravy, milk, and 1 tablespoon flour in skillet; whisk thoroughly. Cook over medium heat until thick and bubbly, 2 to 3 minutes, stirring occasionally. Spoon over chicken.

Nutrition Analysis (per serving)
222Calories
5.0 gTotal Fat
0.5 gSaturated Fat
0.0 gTrans Fat
1.5 gPolyunsaturated Fat
2.5 gMonounsaturated Fat
69 mgCholestrol
304 mgSodium
12 gCarbohydrates
0 gFiber
2 gSugar
30 gProtein
Dietary Exchanges
1 other carbohydrate, 3 lean meat

This recipe is reprinted with permission from the American Heart Association Meals in Minutes Cookbook, Copyright © 2002 by the American Heart Association. Published by Clarkson Potter/Publishers, a division of Random House, Inc. Available from booksellers everywhere.

Monday Motivator-Excellence

2009-02-16T11:23:00.000-05:00

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."

– Aristotle

TODAY IS THE DAY

2009-02-12T02:39:00.000-05:00

TODAY IS THE DAY
Too many times people let their dreams, aspirations, and hopes wither away in the night. But No Longer!! TODAY, I challenge you to break your regular chains of bondage and embrace the warmth of possibility. I push you to go beyond yesterday’s disposition of despair and complacent attitudes and into Today’s beauty of uncertainty. For if we do nothing our dreams will drown in a sea of apathy.

Here are six easy steps to grasp hold of a dream:

1. Write down your vision

2. Break your vision down into a workable yearly goal, and then that year down into monthly goals, followed by weekly goals, and lastly daily goals

3. Believe that you can accomplish your goals

4. Only tell those whom have faith that you can succeed

5. Find examples of those who have already made it

6. Move, ACT, Execute, Evaluate, and Improve

Those six steps should help you move forward. If you need any help with writing or publishing a book visit www.seaboroughenterprisespublishing.com

When can no longer let our lives evaporate before our very eyes. TODAY IS OUR DAY!

Lower Your Risk Of Heart Disease!

2009-02-10T13:59:00.000-05:00

Heart Disease is the leading cause of death for Americans. While some factors such as age and family history can’t be changed, there are several ways you can lower your risk for heart disease. The following are 8ways you can get heart healthy:

Control Blood Pressure: Normal blood pressure is <120/80 mm Hg (millimeters of mercury) for an adult. Blood pressure that stays between 120–139/80–89 is considered prehypertension and above this level (140/90 mm Hg or higher) is considered high (hypertension). Your doctor may take several readings over time before deciding whether your blood pressure is high.. Blood pressure can be controlled by regular exercise, eating healthy, not smoking, limit sodium and alcohol consumption, and take medication if needed.

Control Cholesterol: Saturated and Trans fat in your diet can raise cholesterol. Limit foods high in cholesterol. Have your cholesterol check at least annually and take medication if needed. Desirable total blood cholesterol level should be less than 200mg/dL; Borderline-High Risk is 200-239 mg/DL, and High Risk 240 mgdL. Furthermore, there’s good cholesterol (HDL) and bad cholesterol (LDL). To reduce heart disease, maintain high levels of HDL (>40mg/dL men, >50mg/dL women) and low levels of LDL (<100mg/dl).>Manage Diabetes: Individuals with diabetes are at higher risk of developing heart disease. If you have diabetes, follow your doctor's orders control and management.

Don't Smoke: Smoking more than doubles your risk for heart disease. For some this is easier said than done, but there are resources available at your doctor's office as well as the Internet. Sites like SmokeFree offers resources and a guide on how to quit smoking.

Get Active: Regular exercise 3-4 times a week for a minimum of 30 minutes a day strengthens the heart, reduces stress, manage weight, and provides energy. Regular aerobic exercises can include walking, swimming, jogging, biking, housework, and gardening.

Maintain A Healthy Weight: Excess weight will strain the heart. Keep weight under control by getting active, healthy eating habits, and reducing stress (noticing a trend).
Body mass index (BMI) is a measure of body fat based on height and weight that applies to both adult men and women. Click on the link below to input your information to access your risk and determine a healthy weight goal for your body type.

BMI Calculator

Eat Healthy: My Pyramid offers personalized eating plans, interactive tools to help you plan and assess your food choices, and advice to help you make smart choices from every food group, find your balance between food and physical activity, get the most nutrition out of your calories, and stay within your daily calorie needs.

Manage stress: Don't sweat the small stuff! Stress increases your blood pressure and heart rate.

Have a Cardiac Disease Risk Assessment: Consult your doctor about your personal risk for heart disease and stroke. Follow his/her advice for health test, lifestyle changes, medications, and other therapy.

Monday Motivator

2009-02-09T20:19:00.001-05:00

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. - Helen Keller

Go Red For Women-Feb 6th!

2009-02-03T14:20:00.000-05:00

National Heart Month

2009-02-02T20:43:00.005-05:00

In an effort to raise awareness of heart disease, Feburary is National Heart Month. Heart disease is the #1 killer in women in the United States.

Some surprising facts:

One in 4 women in the United States dies of heart disease, while 1 in 30 dies of breast cancer.

Twenty-three precent of women will die within 1 year after having a heart attack

Within 6 years of having a heart attack, about 46 percent of women become disabled with heart failure. Two-thirds of women who have a heart attack fail to make a full recovery.

February 6th is Wear Red Day! Take the opportunity to share any bit of heart prevention information with anyone who asks.

http://www.goredforwomen.org/

For more information on prevention, awareness, and detection of Heart Disease go to

http://www.hearttruth.gov/

http://www.hearthealthywomen.org/

http://www.womenshealth.gov/

http://www.womenheart.org/

Know the facts, because what you don't know can kill you.

I Was There-Inaguration of President Barack Obama!

2009-01-22T22:25:00.008-05:00

Our President-Barack Obama

2009-01-22T22:22:00.001-05:00

Barack Obama Sworn in as the 44th President of the United States
On January 20, 2009, it dawned cold but sunny in our nation's capital. It was a new day, a day of hope for millions attending the ceremony in Washington, DC and for those watching around the country and, indeed, the world.
http://www.associatedcontent.comarticle/1404634/barack_obama_sworn_in_as_the_44th_president.html

BAHAMAS CRUISE 2009

2009-01-12T19:58:00.009-05:00

Are we there yet?

We made it to the ship!

All you can eat 24-7? Bon appetite!

R & R

The Captain's Ball

Awww, smooth sailing........

I still gain 5lbs :(

Having fun on Carnival

Life's a Island, Literally!

The Florida Keys

Obama 08

I like tall men, but i don't think this would work

Welcome to the Bahamas, I think Im gonna stay!

Hanging with the Locals......

Atlantis Tour in Bahamas

Last night, vacation's over :()!

Monday Motivator-Follow Your Dreams

2009-01-12T10:35:00.000-05:00

-Hamilton Wright Mabie

Fit & Fabulous Friday-Add Relaxation To Every Day

2009-01-02T11:02:00.003-05:00

Relaxation is an essential component toward a healthy, productive life. When you're relaxed you feel better, and are better equipped to handle stress and life's ups and downs. Make relaxation a part of your daily routine.........and enjoy life!

7 Relaxation Basics:

Avoid Clutter

Accept the things you can't change

Look for the silver lining in everything

Simplify your life

Spend time enjoying your family

Don't sweat the small stuff

Spend Time with positive people

Happy New Year!

2009-01-01T08:58:00.001-05:00

Motivational Monday- Fear of Failure

2008-12-29T16:36:00.001-05:00

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.

Theodore Roosevelt

Word of the Day- WOTD!

2008-12-28T23:12:00.001-05:00

A Passion For People

2Corinthians 5:9-21

Talking to Christ about others helps us to talk to others about Christ.

My New Year's Resolution: Weight Loss, of Course

2008-12-28T22:13:00.002-05:00

As 2008 comes to an end I find myself reflecting on goals met and goals unmet. One of my goals for the year was to focus on building my relationship coaching business after the birth of my third child. Goal met. This has proven to be a lot of work, yet very rewarding. Another goal that comes to mind every time I look in the mirror is probably the most popular goal of all time-the weight loss resolution. Goal unmet...until now.

Every year, someone comes up with some sort of slogan or theme for the coming year like "looking great in 2008." I think mine will be "looking and feeling fine in 2009." I'll post it by the treadmill, right over an old picture of me in my younger, more fit days. How's that for motivation?I think I'll use that old picture as one way to help me reach my fitness goals. So far, so good. Every time I get the urge to go back for seconds I think about that picture. Of course, that picture was taken pre-marriage and pre-baby, but it still serves a purpose-a visual, motivational purpose.

Secondly, I'll try eating healthier. They say eating more fruits and vegetables is not only nutritious, but it helps shed extra pounds. They are right-whoever "they" is. In the past two weeks I have lost 4 pounds by snacking on fruit instead of my beloved honey buns.

"They" offered more advice. Drink more water rings in my head constantly. I even bought a 32 ounce water bottle. It's actually more like a huge jug that can be a bit cumbersome to carry around once I factor in the oversized baby bag, my briefcase, and the kids. Can't complain too much, I'm burning extra calories. In the end, it'll all be worth it.

Now, I can't forget about exercise. "They" have offered more helpful advice. It seems I need to do this at least four times a week in addition to my healthy eating and drinking habits. After being up and down with my infant all night I would rather sleep in some mornings. But look, there's that old picture of me hanging near the treadmill reminding me of how it will feel to be able to put on a pair of jeans without sucking in my stomach. In the end, I'll be glad I got out of bed.

Finally, I'll have to be accountable to someone. Studies show that when a person joins a weight loss club or incorporates other people into their fitness regimen in some way they are likely to lose more weight than a person going it alone. So far, I have told a bunch of family members, female family members who hold no punches when it comes to telling another woman about her appearance. If they don't motivate you to take a look in the mirror I don't know what else will. In the end, self-determination is my motivator.

Put all these strategies together and I think my weight loss goal will move from unmet to mission accomplished and in the end...I'll feel great.

Merry Christmas!

2008-12-25T14:33:00.001-05:00

Are You Prepared For Greatness?

2008-12-21T15:55:00.002-05:00

From everyone to whom much has been given, much will be required; and from one to whom much has been entrusted, even more will be demanded.-Luke 12:48

In the pursuit of greatness, the strive toward success, the focus is generally on the expected outcome and not the journey along the way. The gloriousness of the intended goal sometimes clouds the impending sacrifice that is required to obtain that goal. In the Gospel of Mark, Mark describes Jesus as one who came to "give his life as a ransom for many," (Mark 10:45) and who was crucified for the redemption of mankind. Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison for standing against apartheid in South Africa, later to become President of a Democratic South Africa. Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated because of his stance on civil and social injustice in the U.S. Mohandas Gandhi was imprisoned for many years, on numerous occasions, in both South Africa and India and later assassinated. Gandhi was a practitioner of non-violence and truth and his beliefs included compassion to sentient beings, fasting for self-purification, and mutual tolerance between individuals of different creeds. He was quoted as saying:
"When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall — think of it, always."

The commonality between individuals who achieved greatness is Sacrifice! As you prepare for your journey toward greatness, ask yourself the following questions:

What personal sacrifice are you willing to take to achieve success?

Who are you willing to sacrifice for?

Does your dream of success only benefit you?

Who will be impacted by your greatness?

Are you prepared to lose in order to gain?

Are you willing to sacrifice your desires so that someone else can achieve success?

Destine for Greatness, see you when I get there!

The 12 Days AFTER Christmas

2008-12-19T19:53:00.004-05:00

12 minutes on the elliptical
11 Lat pull down
10 reverse crunch
9 push ups
8 tricep kickbacks
7 lunges
6 hamstring curls
5 days a week
3 sets of jumping jacks
2 cycling classes
1 HOT BODY!!!!

Monday Motivator-Greatness

2008-12-15T10:10:00.005-05:00

Nothing liberates our greatness like the desire to help, the desire to serve
-Marianne Williamson

Creativity means believing you have greatness.

-Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble.

-Helen Keller

If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.
-T. Alan Armstrong

The man who is anybody and who does anything is surely going to be criticized, vilified, and misunderstood. This is a part of the penalty for greatness, and every great man understands it; and understands, too, that it is no proof of greatness. The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure contumely without resentment.
-Elbert Green Hubbard

Greatness be nothing unless it be lasting.
-Napoleon Bonaparte

There are no great men, only great challenges that ordinary men are forced by circumstances to meet.
-William F. Halsey

Knowledge is Power and Love Conquers All

-Sapphire Starr

Happy Friday! Better Than Sex Cake Recipe

2008-12-11T20:09:00.002-05:00

Better Than Sex Cake
CDKitchen http://www.cdkitchen.com

Category: Better Than Sex Cake
Serves/Makes: 10 | Difficulty Level: 3 | Ready In: 30-60 minutes

Ingredients:

1 package Chocolate cake mix
14 ounces sweetened condensed milk
17 ounces caramel, butterscotch, or hot fudge topping
cool whip
5 ounces toffee chips
1/2 cup chopped pecans

Directions:
Preheat oven to 350F. Prepare and bake cake 30 minutes in 13-x-9 pan. Cool for 15 minutes. Poke top of cake every half inch with fork. Drizzle sweetened condensed milk evenly over top of cake.

Let stand until milk has been absorbed into cake. Drizzle with ice cream topping. Spread with cool whip. Sprinkle with toffee chips and pecans. Refrigerate if not serving immediately.

ENJOY!

Monday Motivator

2008-12-08T13:07:00.001-05:00

Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.
-Warren Buffett

World AIDS Day 2008- Out of the Shadows

2008-11-30T12:03:00.000-05:00

Know Your HIV status?

2008-11-30T11:44:00.002-05:00

At the end of 2003,* an estimated 1,039,000 to 1,185,000 persons in the United States were living with HIV/AIDS [1]. In 2006, 35,314 new cases of HIV/AIDS in adults, adolescents, and children were diagnosed in the 33 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting . CDC has developed a new and innovative system designed to estimate the number of new HIV infections (or incidence) for the United States in a given year. Using this new technology, CDC estimates that 56,300 new HIV infections occurred in the United States in 2006.As a Clinical Technologist I see an alarming number of new HIV cases. What's your perspective on HIV/AIDS? What can be done to stop this epidemic? How can we educate our communities to bring more awarenss to the devastation of this disease? Do you know your status? Get tested! Go tohttp://www.hivtest.org/to find testing sites near you.

Support World Aids Day! Know Your Status!

2008-11-30T11:39:00.001-05:00

Be Thankful!

2008-11-27T08:20:00.001-05:00

BLACK FRIDAY

2008-11-23T19:23:00.004-05:00

The time has come once again for what WAS the biggest shopping day of the year. During these hard times with jobs being lost and cash becoming tight this Friday might be the answer to many peoples prayers. This Black Friday will be a good time to stock up on things for next spring and summer. The Children's Place will be having a BLACKOUT SALE on everything in their stores online. Please remember that there is life after the holidays so do not spend beyond your means just to make your family happy for a couple of days. Check out http://bfads.net/ and http://www.blackfriday.info/to get the official ads to all major stores for this weekend. HAVE A GREAT HOLIDAY! Don't forget that if you need a shopping buddy to just drop me a line at tommonica1@hotmail.com.

Monday Motivator-"Destine For Greatness"

2008-11-17T08:00:00.001-05:00

Nelson Mandela who went from being a prisoner to president, eloquently illustrates the significance of embracing and accepting our GREATNESS. We need to comprehend this on a much deeper level in order to progress from survival to success to GREATNESS.
Please read and contemplate the following words which may already be at least somewhat familiar to you:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant?" Who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us: it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.

--Nelson Mandela's 1994 Inaugural Speech (fragment)

You're Beautiful!

2008-11-14T18:53:00.005-05:00

Flipping through a popular magazine while waiting to purchase groceries, or channel surfing to find Dancing with the Stars, I’m often frustrated with the bombardment of images of frail thin women selling everything from lipstick to shampoo. We're trained to believe that a size 14 is the entry gate to Plus-Sized Kingdom.Our society portrayal of beauty is flawed and doesn’t represent the average women. Despite society’s flawed expectation of what makes a woman beautiful, every woman possesses the true essence of beauty. Beautiful is your smile, your personality, your ability to love and take care of your family, to cherish your self-worth, unwavering integrity and character, to stay poised and strong during turbulent circumstances. Beauty defined is excellent and wonderful! All women despite race, size, shape, age, or economic class can live up to those expectations.

What size is the "Average" woman?

The average American woman is 5'4", weighs 140 lbs, and wears a size 14 dress. The "ideal" woman--portrayed by models, Miss America, Barbie dolls, and screen actresses--is 5'7", weighs 100 lbs, and wears a size 8.

One-third of all American women wear a size 16 or larger.75% of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance.

50% of American women are on a diet at any one time.

You're an unique original design by God! Flaunt your flaws, embrace your natural beauty, and know that You are Beautiful!

Redemption For the Frivolous Spender

2008-11-11T20:32:00.010-05:00

Have you purchased a very expensive pair of shoes that you could not LIVE without, despite not having room for the ones at the house? Did you purchase that Flat Screen HD TV for the bathroom so that you won't miss the game while handling business? Or you just couldn't pass up the opportunity to purchase that rotating jewelry case from QVC for 5 easy payments of 69.99. The current condition of the economy should have everyone holding tight to loose change and clutching their wallets, but some can't kick the habit of spending frivolously despite current economic conditions. They say confession is good for the soul and admittance is the first step toward recovery, and Spendster offers a place for frivolous spenders to bare their soul.

Spendster was started by the National Endowment for Financial Education, a nonprofit aimed at helping people learn about handling their finances. It's intended to offer a place for spenders to admit poor spending habits and make steps toward better ones.

Most people buy on impulse or feel compelled to spend their money because "it was on sale". Only to regret the decision later and to be stored in the "junk "drawer or garage along side many other unused purchases. Whether it's the 600 treadmill that doubles as a clothes hanger, or that collection of pricey handbags that lives in the back of your closet, Spendster offers tools that not only provide insight into your current spending habits, but also provided resources to compare the benefits of investing over spending.

The purpose of this site is aimed at getting people to think rationally about their spending habits. The site notes, "Share your story of impulse buying, over-spending or just plain wasting money on the stuff you don't need."

Monday Motivator-Follow Your Dreams

2008-11-10T07:09:00.002-05:00

All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible.

-T.E. Lawrence

Yes We Can!

2008-11-05T16:12:00.004-05:00

Barack Obama and the 1st Family

Be A Part Of History!

2008-11-04T06:55:00.001-05:00

Vote 11/4/2008!

2008-11-03T06:39:00.001-05:00

Breast Cancer In Men

2008-10-31T05:00:00.000-04:00

What you didn’t know………………

According to the American Cancer Society

The risk of men getting breast cancer is 1/10th of 1% (1 in 1,000)*
About 1,990 new cases of invasive breast cancer in men (US) will be diagnosed in 2008*
In 2008, about 450 men will die from breast cancer in the US*

The best strategy for reducing the number of deaths caused by breast cancer is prevention and early detection. For example, maintaining ideal body weight and restricting alcohol consumption can lower the risk of breast cancer in men. Early detection has proved more challenging because men tend to ignore lumps and only see a physician when lumps becomes larger. That’s why men are generally diagnosed at far advance stages than women, which reduces odds for successful treatment.

The prognosis for men with breast cancer was once thought to be greater than women, but recent studies have not found this to be true. Men and women with the same stage of breast cancer have a fairly similar outlook for survival.

Ladies make sure you pass this information on to the men in your life.

*American Cancer Society, www.cancer.org

Be Safe This Holiday

2008-10-28T12:14:00.001-04:00

Some people will be going trick-or-treating this upcoming Halloween. I’m not an advocate of this yearly practice but by offering you tips I’d rather you be safe than sorry. Stay in groups whether you’re an adult, teen, child, male or female. Check your candy for tampering. One year a razor blade was found in a child’s chocolate candy. What sort of person would do this…I could only imagine. Be wary of everyone. A lady was assaulted in her apartment when a guy showed up in a firefighter’s uniform saying he had to check for smoke damage because several small fires broke out in her apartment complex.

It is especially important to be on guard when you start shopping for Christmas gifts. During the holidays last year the television show, “America’s Most Wanted,” highlighted a string of murders taking place near shopping centers and malls. So, be sure to keep your car doors locked at all times. I make it a practice to put my three children in the van on the same side as the driver’s side so the door on the passenger’s side stays locked. Since a van is fairly roomy, I sometimes close the door and lock it behind me while I’m buckling the kids. If it’s locked nobody can sneak in on us. Also, always have your keys ready before you get to your vehicle. Once you arrive home it is a good idea to have your keys ready as you approach your front door as well.

It is hard to believe that the New Year is right around the corner. Soon, we all will be watching “the ball” drop as we count down the seconds. Some of us will be at home singing Auld Lang Syne and others will be out in the street celebrating the year to come with friends, family and strangers. For those of you who will be in your prospective cities-please be on guard. Many of you will be drinking. Statistically, the rate of drunken driving accidents rises at certain times of the year, particularly holidays (www.dui.lifetips.com). It is very important that someone step up and be a designated driver so that we can all step into 2009 on a positive note.

Start taking these simple precautions today. As you leave your house or job today, make sure you look around and be observant. Keep doors locked. Keep your keys in your hand so that you can make entries into your house and car quick ones. Stay off the cell phone while you are walking. In reality, it does not deter criminals from attacking you, but serves as a distraction to you from your surroundings. Remember to stay in groups at all times. If we all take simple, commonsense steps to being cautious, we can make it into the coming year safe and happy as we begin to work on our New Year’s resolution.

Web Source: "DUITips." LifeTips. 2008. 28 Oct. 2008 http://dui.lifetips.com/.

Jennifer Hudson's mother, brother killed: reports

2008-10-24T20:31:00.005-04:00

The mother and brother, Darnell Hudson and Jason, of Academy Award-winning actress Jennifer Hudson was found shot to death in her Chicago home on Friday, media reported.

This horrific crime that unfolded late this Friday afternoon are very tragic, Keep the Hudson family in your prayers and pray for the safe return of Julian King, missing 7-year old nephew of Jennifer Hudson.

Keeping Your Sanity During the Holidays

2008-10-22T10:47:00.004-04:00

With the holidays right around the corner, many people are getting more and more stressed because they are taking on more than they can handle. I’ve been there, done that and it’s not worth it in the end. Now, I sit back and watch other people get stressed out and fight over the last toy in stock or the closest parking space. If you are one who gets excited over traveling and shopping during the holidays here are a few suggestions I think you could use to help you have cheerful, memorable holidays this year.

Suggestion one: Be Frugal
The biggest advice you may hear these days from finance gurus is to limit credit card use. After the holidays, reality along with depression sets in for many. They end up with more bills than they can handle and all on high interest credit cards. A lot of these high interest cards are opened after a store offers a 10% discount or more on merchandise for new accounts. This is too good to be true. The stores know there is a big chance these cards will not be paid off before interest accrues. More money for them, more bills for you. With interest rates as high as they are you’ll also be paying more than the item is worth. In most cases, you’ll still be paying for an item that is no longer being used, like a child’s toy, which may possibly be broken by the time the New Year rolls around.

Calling people can mean more than mailing an expensive gift. I’m a bit old-fashioned and not big on text messaging, but I have learned to appreciate the fact that people take time to send a quick “Happy Holidays” even if it was sent to everybody listed in their phone. It’s the thought that counts right? LOL

Suggestion two: Be nice
Being around family during the holidays can work some people’s nerves. A lot of personalities are gathered around during these times. A shared history may dredge up bad memories. Alcohol often brings down inhibitions making it easy for most people to be no longer guarded.
When drama starts raring its ugly head try letting comments roll off you like water on a duck’s back. Easier said than done, but possible. Be bold and try some assertiveness as opposed to aggressiveness-an action that will only make matters worse. When all else fails, remember and remind everyone of the good times. Keep your sense of humor when everyone loses theirs.

Suggestion three: Be thankful
Not to end on a sad note, but a large number of people didn’t make it this far into the year. My 89-year-old great-grandfather passed away a few short weeks ago. An acquaintance of mine lost her cousin last weekend. Lastly, my spouse’s old co-worker and friend has been in the hospital for a month with no health insurance. Regardless of how many presents I receive this Christmas and regardless of what my drunk uncle says at Thanksgiving that might offend me, I am going to make the conscious decision to be thankful that I am healthy and in my right mind.

Now, as you begin this holiday season in the weeks to come, I hope you remember this article. Think about how putting those presents on credit will affect you two or three months down the road. You might be better off making simple, yet thoughtful telephone calls. Try showing family more love with kind words-a soft answer turns away wrath. Most of all take time to slow down and be thankful. Hopefully, these three tidbits of advice will keep you sane during this holiday season.

Monday Motivator-Hope

2008-10-20T17:03:00.000-04:00

Hope deferred depresses, but it's fulfillment revitalizes.

-Proverbs 13:12

Food For Thought-"Purpose"

2008-10-17T22:22:00.000-04:00

Here are the million dollar questions:

What is my purpose? Why am I here?

Purpose: the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used,etc.

Destiny: The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one's lot

Many people are often trying to find their “purpose” in life. Always searching but never finding what they’re looking for. Our purpose was implanted upon our creation. Every individual is a unique designer original created by God. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works. When an object is created, its function and how it works is included in the design. Once created it does not have to be sent off to find its purpose. If object when created does not operate according to the design it cannot be used.

While in college, I studied the laws of thermodynamics in chemistry. There are two types of energy, potential and kinetic. Potential energy is stored energy. For example when God created us, He gave us the power to operate in our purpose to fulfill our destiny. The purpose is there, but is not released. Kinetic energy is energy in motion. In order to be effective, you have to do something with the power you possess. The First Law of Thermodynamics says that energy under normal conditions cannot be created or destroyed, simply transformed from one type of energy to another. Your purpose cannot be recreated or destroyed; no one can take your purpose away from you. There are two types of systems, closed and opened. By a closed system what is meant is a system that is completely isolated from the rest of the universe, nothing could get in or out of the box. This is the tragedy of not operating in your purpose. Going through life not realizing your potential and not putting it to use. Open systems take in or capture matter and or energy from the surrounding environment fighting against entropy (chaos) by taking in matter and energy allowing them to stay organized. This is the power of an individual who realize their purpose and operates fully toward their destiny. Understanding that challenges are inevitable, yet not allowing it to hinder their purpose.

You already possess the skills, talents, and ability to operate in your God given purpose. What do you like to do? What are you good at? What would you do if you knew you would not fail? Everyone has the potential to be great!
Don’t be afraid to think and do the impossible!

Psalm 139:14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.